I was talking to a women’s studies proffessor recently about purity rings. Purity rings are rings given to girls that are suppossed to symbolize chastity and “purity”. The ring is suppossed to be worn until marriage, as a sign that the wearer will remain a virgin until she is married.
The concept is obviously misogynistic and harmful. Having sex before marriage does not mean you’re not “pure” or that you’re “dirty”. It just means that you chose to have sex before marriage.
My instructor told me that when all of her daughters friends were getting purity rings she decided to give her daughter a “good choices” ring instead. A good choices ring, my instructor explained, represented her faith in her daughter to make good healthy choices about her health and sexuality.
I thought this was a great idea. I think it’s important that parents don’t shame sexuality. If daughters need help, they should be able to go to their parents without judgment.
If purity rings are still around when I’m a mother, my daughter will be getting a good choices ring instead.
Abso-fucking-lutely. (I just finished reading Valenti’s “The Purity Myth,” which was well-written/researched and enraged me for all the predictable reasons, so this makes me really happy to hear.) I am absolutely stealing this idea if I ever have a daughter. Or a son for that matter. Hell, if I am a godmother, I am giving any and all of my godchildren “good choices” jewelry. Wear this. Be informed. Be healthy. Come to me with any questions. Happy birthday.)